Maturity brings success...

Maturity!

The experience in the preparation for 6^th convocation in Assam Don Bosco University is one of the outstanding one. In the course of running up and down for the success of the event has made me to realized fully on what it means to be more mature. There comes a misconception between two people on who is to cover the event. One was very upset just because of comment. Taking it into negativity, splashing all kind of words to the other in the absence of his friend. His friend never realized because he had no battery to follow up in chat room, until the next morning reading the situation in the chat room. I wish the first friend could realize that what he does not know does disturbed. 

Taking the perspective of a matured person. Maturity is many things. It is the ability to base a judgment on the big picture, the long haul. It means being able to resist the urge for immediate gratification and opt for the course of action that will pay off later. One of the characteristics of the young is “I want it now.” Grown up people can wait.

Maturity is perseverance the ability to sweat out a project or a situation, in spite of heavy opposition and discouraging setbacks, and stick with it until it is finished. The adult who is constantly changing friends and changing mates is immature. He/she cannot stick it out because he/she has not grown up. Maturity is the ability to control anger and settle differences without violence or destruction. The mature person can face unpleasantness, frustration, discomfort and defeat without collapsing or complaining. He/she knows he cannot have everything his/her own way every time. He/she is able to defer to circumstances, to other people and to time. He/she knows when to compromise and is not too proud to do so.

Maturity is humility. It is being big enough to say, “I was wrong.” And, when he/she is right, the mature person need not experience the satisfaction of saying, “I told you so.” Maturity is the ability to live up to your responsibilities, and this means being dependable. It means keeping your word. Dependability is the hallmark of integrity. Do you mean what you say and do you say what you mean? Unfortunately, the world is filled with people who cannot be counted on. When you need them most, they are among the missing. They never seem to come through in the clutches. They break promises and substitute alibis for performance. They show up late or not at all. They are confused and disorganized. Their lives are a chaotic maze of broken promises, former friends, unfinished business and good intentions that somehow never materialize. They are always a day late.

The photograph above expresses the simplicity of matured person. This is not because they cannot defend themselves, but because they are mature to take decision for their life. Maturity is the ability to make a decision and stand by it. Immature people spend their lives exploring endless possibilities and then doing nothing. Action requires courage. Without courage, little is accomplished.

Maturity is the ability to harness your abilities and your energies and do more than is expected. The mature person refuses to settle for mediocrity. He/she would rather aim high and miss the mark than low and makes it. Maturity is the art of living in peace with that which cannot be changed, the courage to change that, which should be changed, no matter what it takes, and the wisdom to know the difference.